Friday, April 10, 2015

Celebrate Little Victories - Finding My Tribe

I am posting events for the upcoming RT Booklovers' Convention on my travel blog, Aloha on My Mind,   I am using the tag line, Finding Your Tribe, in response to recent kerfuffles in Romanceland.  I'm used to drama from the military spouses' clubs and even the PTA.  Yet these dust ups in Romanceland surprise me because romance embraces hope, overcomes obstacles, and celebrates the HEA.   I believe there is room for everyone - readers and authors - to enjoy success in Romanceland.  The key to that success is finding your tribe.

Five years ago, shortly after I created SOS Aloha, I followed a popular blog known for its confrontational style.  I failed miserably in defending my perspective against long time commenters who had thicker skin than me.   I cried to an author friend who responded, "You don't have to be friends with that group of readers to be part of romance."   So I set out to find my own tribe within Romanceland ... and I am thankful for the friends I now have.

I offer a snippet from best selling author Sharon Hamilton:

I am giving away a book choice from my convention stash to one randomly selected commenter.  To enter the giveaway,

1.  Can you share a pearl of wisdom?

2.  Comments are open through Saturday, April 18, 10 pm in Baltimore. 

3.  I'll post the winner on Sunday, April 19.


Kim in Baltimore
Aloha Spirit in Charm City


  1. This is a favourite of mine:

    “We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.”

    Winston Churchill

  2. Spit in the wind and it will come back in your face! I have no idea who said it.

  3. You are not responsible for other's actions.

  4. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” - Eleanor Roosevelt

  5. Beautiful! I've never understood how people could tear others down.
    "Do unto others as you would want have done unto you."
    This is one that I would try to live by and teach my children.

  6. I have to totally agree with yours. We have belonged to a bocci league for many, many years but this year we opted out. Too much politics and drama. The "few" make it miserable for those that just want to have a nice, friendly game and when they refused to vote on some matters we decided it was enough. We opted to keep our winter game night through the summer where there is not drama.

  7. That's very true. I've left so many fb groups because the people in them were so awful to one another and the admins don't do anything to stop it from happening.

  8. Loved the snippet from Sharon Hamilton! My favorite pearl of wisdom is: All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.

  9. treat people like you want to be treated

  10. I once read 'if money can fix it, it's not a problem' - tho people with limited funds may not agree with that it's addressing those problems that even for those who have a lot of money, there are some problems that can't be fixed, like those that involve health conditions.

  11. Be kind to one another. (Ellen Degeneres)

  12. What a wonderful quote. God advice for everyone.

    Not exactly a pearl of wisdom. When our children were young and gave us a hard time about leaving when we visited friends and relatives, my standard comment was "If you don't leave, you can't come back." I am now using it with my grandchildren if they fuss about going home.